Getting Started - Books, Groups & Finding a Therapist



Recommended Reading & Support Groups - Betrayal Trauma

  • What can I do about Me? by Rhyll Croshaw
  • Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend
  • Treating Trauma From Sexual Betrayal The Essential Tools for Healing by Dr. Kevin Skinner
  • Facing Heartbreak (workbook) Stefanie Carnes, Mari Lee & Anthony Rodriguez
  • The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person you Love the Most Hurts You the Worst by Michelle Mays
  • Moving Beyond Betrayal - The 5 step boundary for partners of sex addicts by Vicki Tidwell Palmer
  • Out of the Ashes" by Ruth Davidson (Faith based)
  • The Betrayal Bond Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes
  • The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
  • It Didn't Start with you How inherited family trauma shapes who we are and how to end the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
  • Co-Dependent No More by Melodie Beatty
  • Mending a Shattered Heart by Stefanie Carnes
Bloomforwomen.com (Research based - Free)
SA12Step.org – Steve & Rhyll Croshaw for addicts and spouses (12 Step, Free)
LDS ARP Spouse Support (12 Step, Free)

Recommended Reading & Support Groups- Sex Addiction
  • Treating Sexual Addiction A compassionate approach to Recovery by Dr. Kevin Skinner
  • Your Brain on Porn - Gary Wilson (Ted talk & Website with same title too)
  • Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes
  • Facing the Shadow (workbook) by Patrick Carnes
  • He Restoreth my soul by Dr. Donald Hilton Jr. (faith based)
  • Armed with Righteousness – Winning your Battles With Satan by Steven Cramer
Path for men/Bloom for Partners -Free, Researched based recovery principles
Dharma Recovery - free support groups based on Buddhist principles
Fight The New Drug - Fortify or Relay - support groups w/online platforms/apps


Finding and Selecting a Therapist

Sexhelp.com  - To find a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist and Sex Addiction Therapist near you

Certifications you may want your therapist to have: 
  • CPTT - Certified Partner Trauma Therapist from IITAP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals)
  • CSAT - Certified Sex Addiction Therapist from IITAP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals)
  • EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy - Research based therapy focused on attachment, necessary for healing relationships of broken trust
  • EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) - PTSD & trauma work
  • ART - Accelerated Resolution Therapy - PTSD & trauma work
  • Neurofeedback - PTSD & Trauma and emotional management